Have you ever encounter that kid with frequent temper tantrums, won’t share , gets frustrated easily, ignores you, expects adults and peers to listen to him, won’t help and is almost never satisfied with what he have?
You may have a spoilt child in your hands.
While spoiling a child is no parent’s intention, it does happen, and can cause significant behavioral problems if not corrected quickly.
Below are some helpful tips on how you can unspoil your child:
- The first step in stopping the spoiling, is to determine why you spoil your child. Do you feel guilty for some reason? Is it related to your childhood? In order to correct the behavior, you must determine this reason. Once you have determined the reason, then take the necessary steps to correct it or find alternative ways to handle the situation.
- Children learn from watching and from habit. It is important that you teach your child about privileges, and the responsibility that comes with those privileges. What they receive has to be earned.
- Set clear rules and expectations at an early age. Be sure to discuss the rules with your child, and alert him/her to the consequences if a rule is broken. When a rule is broken, you must follow through with the consequence and do not give in early. For example, if a rule is broken and you remove the TV privileges for two days, do not give it back early. Be consistent.
- Do not fall for the peer pressure trick. All kids will say they have to have the latest and greatest thing because “everyone else has it.” Do not give in to this. Instead, tell your child they can have the item, when they have earned it. Give them a special chore or project to do, so they can work for what they want.
- Make sure that everyone who interacts with your child knows how you wish to handle spoiling. Babysitters, grandparents, and other friends/family should understand what you expect if your child tries to pressure them into something that you would not approve of.
Learn not to draw out an argument or discussion with your child over something they want. It is easier to move on from the situation, so as not to teach them to try and negotiate their way. Remember, you must be consistent with them and stick to the rules you have set. You do not need to reason with your child – they will know that they must behave properly and do what is asked in order to receive special things.